Winning in Relationships – Building Friendships
If you’re wondering why a book on winning in challenging times includes so many non-financial chapters, starting with this one on friendships, it’s because relationships, emotions, and addictive behaviors are at the root of most of our money problems. Applying spiritual principles to these areas of our lives will make it possible to successfully apply the work and finance principles of the previous chapters. Think of it in medical terms. Sometimes a doctor can’t treat the presenting illness until we make some lifestyle changes. For example, people can’t undergo hip-replacement surgery that will help them walk, even run, without pain, before they reach their proper weight and blood pressure. It’s the same with winning in life. We’re whole beings, created by God. Applying God’s principles to our relationships, emotions, and behavior is part of winning financially and being a conqueror, even in the most troubled times.
Do you know who your true friends really are? The people we call “friend” say a lot about us. There are many different definitions and opinions about who a friend truly is, but most of us would agree that a friend is someone we love and trust. According to Merriam-Webster’s Collegiate Dictionary, a friend is “one attached to another by affection or esteem.” A friend is more than just someone we hang out with once in a while, or someone we briefly speak to from time to time. Thomas Jefferson once said, “Friendship is precious, not only in the shade, but in the sunshine of life. ”Whether we’re experiencing life’s sunshine or its storms, friends are a very important part of our lives. What does the Word of God have to say about friendship? Proverbs 17:17 says, “A friend loveth at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.” The right friends can be a blessing and the wrong friends can be a curse. If we have the right friends in our lives, they will empower us to succeed. The wrong friends will ultimately cause us to fail.
The word friend first appeared in the Bible when God established a covenant with Abraham. A covenant is a promise between two or more parties to carry out the terms agreed upon. God established a blood covenant with Abraham. And during that time, a blood covenant relationship could only be broken by death. God told Abraham he would be the father of many nations, and Abraham believed Him. God wanted to establish a covenant with him that would allow Jesus to be born into the earth. It was through this covenant that they became friends . Abraham was called the friend of God because he believed and trusted the promises of God, and God counted him righteous (James 2:23).
Friendship is born out of commitments, vows, and promises kept between individuals. This covenant does not, however, give us the right to have the advantage in the relationship. Covenant relationship gives us the right togive the advantage. So if we have a true friend, what we should see in the relationship is a person who is more concerned with giving the advantage rather than taking the advantage. I have a friend, who is also a preacher, who got upset with me a while back because he wanted me to speak at his church more frequently. I had explained to him that I was focusing more on doing exactly what God told me to do rather than just doing a lot of speaking engagements simply because I was invited to preach. I remember his sharing with me that if I was really his N covenant brother, I would preach at his church more often. I told him that if he was really my covenant brother, he would be more concerned with my seeking and obeying God than with what I could do for him. He said, “You’re right. I repent!” True friends always seek to give each other the advantage and promote their well-being.
“Winning In Troubled Times”, by Dr. Creflo Dollar
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